Online Counseling — When ChatGPT becomes the third voice
My partner uses ChatGPT too much.
If your partner uses ChatGPT to win arguments, you're not imagining a pattern — there are entire Reddit threads about it. ChatGPT has become a fixture of the attention economy, and some people reach for it the way others reach for their phone: reflexively, habitually, for everything from tonight's dinner recipe to whether they were right in that disagreement last Tuesday. The irritation you feel is real and it makes sense. You're not overreacting; this is a real shift in how your partner thinks — or more precisely, who they think with. The systemic question of what need is being met — reassurance, certainty, the avoidance of vulnerability — is worth sitting with. Stefan Kohlweg, a systemic counselor based in Vienna with an MSc Psychosocial Counseling from Sigmund Freud University, offers asynchronous email counseling at €99 per session. The goal isn't to get your partner to stop using ChatGPT. It's to find language for what's actually bothering you, and figure out what agreements you both want.
€99 per session · 24h email reply · no subscription
When the chatbot becomes the third voice in the room.
It probably didn't start with arguments. It started with recipes, or a travel itinerary, or some research they wanted to do quickly. At some point the phone came out mid-conversation — not to look something up, but to check with ChatGPT first. Then came the "well actually, GPT said..." sentences, which have a particular quality: they land with a kind of finality that shuts down the back-and-forth rather than continuing it. Now it's decisions about weekends, about money, about what to do about the thing with your family. You've noticed the pattern. You've probably said something about it once, carefully, and it didn't land the way you hoped.
The reason individual instances feel small but the cumulative effect doesn't is that something real is changing. It's not just the chatbot. It's the sense that your partner is no longer thinking with you — they're arriving at conclusions and presenting them. You've been conversationally outsourced. The exchange that used to happen between the two of you, the back and forth, the uncertainty held together, is now happening somewhere else first. That's a shift worth naming, even if no single incident is dramatic enough to justify how much it's started to bother you.
Counseling here isn't about persuading your partner to use ChatGPT less. It's about finding the words for what's actually happening that don't immediately put them on the defensive, surfacing the underlying need their delegation to the chatbot is meeting, and working out together what you actually want the agreements to be. Sometimes that's a boundary about arguments. Sometimes it's a question about something older — about how they handle uncertainty, or what it means to be wrong in front of you. An asynchronous email session gives you a quiet place to sort that out before you try to have the conversation.
Background reading: What systemic counseling is — and what it isn't · When AI enters a marriage · The two kinds of boundaries in AI relationships →
02 — The Approach
Clarity.
Not judgment.
Counseling gives you a structured space to name what's actually going on — without defensiveness, shame, or pressure. You write what you've lived. A reply comes back, in your inbox, within 24 hours: not advice, but the dynamic underneath, in language you can use.
03 — Sessions
One email.
Real clarity.
Asynchronous email counseling. No scheduling, no retelling your story, no subscription. Pay per session.
Systemic
Counseling
Email-based · asynchronous · 24h turnaround
€99 ≈ $110 / £85 · pay once, no subscription
- Systemic counseling techniques, reviewed by a human counselor
- For individuals, couples, or partners
- Your context lives in your emails — no need to retell your story
- 24-hour turnaround on every session
- No scheduling — fits your life, not the other way around
04 — About
Stefan Kohlweg —
counselor & technologist
I hold an MSc in Psychosocial Counseling from Sigmund Freud University in Vienna, and a BA in Recording Arts from SAE Institute Vienna. The combination — a technical background alongside formal counseling training — shapes how I think about the intersection of people and the systems they live inside.
I work with individuals and couples through asynchronous email counseling that fits your life. Systemic techniques, always reviewed by me before delivery. The approach is rooted in communication and emotional dynamics, not in judgment.
The goal stays the same across every situation: clarity, less shame, and better conversation.
Every reply is a structured email written for the situation you've described. The clearest way to see what one looks like is to read a worked example end-to-end.
See what a reply actually looks like →Other situations people bring.
If €99 is out of reach right now, write to [email protected]. Each request is read quietly.
This service is systemic counseling (Lebens- und Sozialberatung) pursuant to Austrian Gewerbeordnung. It is not psychotherapy and does not address diagnosis or mental illness. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please contact a licensed psychotherapist or emergency services.