What is AI relationship counseling?
Search the phrase and you mostly find an AI offering to counsel you. This is the other thing — a human counselor for what an AI is doing inside a relationship — defined from inside the practice.
Can AI end a marriage?
What the family-court signals, the Kinsey survey, and California’s new companion-app law actually show — read systemically, with the chatbot as the newest third rather than the sole cause.
The miracle question for AI overuse
Steve de Shazer’s solution-focused technique, repurposed as a quiet self-check for the moment you start to wonder whether the AI tab has become load-bearing.
Questioning your AI beliefs
Byron Katie's four questions and turnarounds applied to a charged belief about a partner's AI use — a way to slow down before escalating.
Why ChatGPT is not a therapy replacement
On consumer-chatbot agreeableness, the reflective distance of writing, and why a named counselor who is answerable for the reply changes what the reply can do.
The two kinds of boundaries in AI relationships
On the difference between asking ‘am I too close to it?’ and asking ‘where does my role end and its role begin?’ — and why the systemic vocabulary handles both more usefully than the moral one.
Why relating takes time
On the twenty-four-hour reply window, what the cadence does that live chat cannot, and the evidence behind the practice.
Relating to AI as a written practice
On the forty-year therapeutic-letter tradition behind email counseling, and why writing is the native medium for the kind of relating people now do with AI.
Why AI is actually better for systemic counseling
On Working Alliance scores in text-only therapy, why language is the intervention, and what becomes possible when a systemic counselor is no longer the bottleneck.
When AI enters a marriage
On triangulation, ambiguous loss, and the systemic reading of what happens when a chatbot becomes the third in the room.
What systemic counseling is — and what it isn't
On the European systemic tradition, the Austrian regulatory frame, and the discipline of holding space without diagnosing.