The two kinds of boundaries in AI relationships
On the difference between asking ‘am I too close to it?’ and asking ‘where does my role end and its role begin?’ — and why the systemic vocabulary handles both more usefully than the moral one.
Why relating takes time
On the twenty-four-hour reply window, what the cadence does that live chat cannot, and the evidence behind the practice.
Relating to AI as a written practice
On the forty-year therapeutic-letter tradition behind email counseling, and why writing is the native medium for the kind of relating people now do with AI.
Why AI is actually better for systemic counseling
On Working Alliance scores in text-only therapy, why language is the intervention, and what becomes possible when a systemic counselor is no longer the bottleneck.
When AI enters a marriage
On triangulation, ambiguous loss, and the systemic reading of what happens when a chatbot becomes the third in the room.
What systemic counseling is — and what it isn't
On the European systemic tradition, the Austrian regulatory frame, and the discipline of holding space without diagnosing.