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For partners — AI & Relationships

Is my partner addicted to AI?

Maybe they reach for a chatbot before they reach for you. Maybe an AI companion has quietly become the one they tell things first. The worry is real, and you're allowed to feel it. But before it turns into an ultimatum, it helps to look closely at the one sentence you keep coming back to.

Examine the belief — free, 2 minutes →

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01 — The worry

Naming it
without
taking sides.

"Addicted" is a heavy word, and sometimes it fits and sometimes it doesn't. Either way, what you're feeling is worth taking seriously. Most people who land here recognize at least one of these.

01

The AI feels like a third wheel

They turn to a chatbot for comfort, advice, or company — and you've started to feel like you're competing with something that never sleeps.

02

You're wondering if it counts as cheating

There's an intimacy in how they talk to it. No one touched anyone, and still something feels crossed. You don't have a clean word for it yet.

03

Every time you raise it, it escalates

You bring it up, they get defensive, and it ends in an argument or in silence. The topic itself has become the thing you can't talk about.

02 — Before the ultimatum

Question the
belief first.

When a thought hurts, the mind hands you a hard, certain sentence — "My partner is addicted," "I'm being replaced." The Work, a method from Byron Katie, takes that one sentence and turns it around four ways. Not to prove you wrong, but to find the room around it before you act on it.

01 —
Write the sentence that stings The blunt one you actually think at 2am, not the polite version you'd say out loud.
02 —
Turn it to the opposite Add or drop a "not." Then look for one real moment where the opposite was just as true.
03 —
Turn it toward yourself Point the same words back. Where, lately, have you done a version of the thing you're naming?
04 —
Make it the shared problem Take the verdict off your partner and name the thing the two of you face together. That part is workable.

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03 — Who reads your words

Stefan Kohlweg —
a named human, not a bot

MSc Psychosocial Counseling
Sigmund Freud University, Vienna
Trade License
Lebens- und Sozialberatung, Austria
Format
Async email — €99, reply within 24h

The free reflection is yours to keep, and many people never need anything more. If you want a person to read it, that person is me. I hold an MSc in Psychosocial Counseling from Sigmund Freud University in Vienna, and I work with individuals and couples navigating AI-related tension.

One email, €99, no subscription, a reply within 24 hours. A licensed human signs every reply — not a chatbot. My approach is about communication and what's underneath the conflict, never judgment about how anyone uses technology.

Often the AI isn't the core issue. The point of a session is to find the real question underneath it, and to give you language for the conversation you've been avoiding.

Whatever brought you here, the worry deserves a proper space. Looking hard at a painful thought, instead of acting on it straight away, is difficult — and worth it.

This is a reflective exercise, not a crisis service. If you are in distress or thinking about harming yourself, please don't wait for an email — contact a licensed psychotherapist or your local emergency services now. In the EU you can reach help on 112; findahelpline.com lists free, confidential lines worldwide.

This service is systemic counseling (Lebens- und Sozialberatung) pursuant to Austrian Gewerbeordnung. It is not psychotherapy and does not address diagnosis or mental illness. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please contact a licensed psychotherapist or emergency services.