I’m Stefan Kohlweg, a systemic counselor based in Vienna. I run relateto.ai, an asynchronous email counseling practice for people navigating what AI is doing inside their relationships — individuals and couples who find that a chatbot has entered the space between them, or become a space of its own.
I hold an MSc in Psychosocial Counseling from Sigmund Freud University in Vienna, and a BA in Recording Arts from SAE Institute Vienna. That combination — a technical background alongside formal counseling training — shapes how I think about the intersection of people and technology. I work in English and German, worldwide, by email.
Credentials
You can also find me on LinkedIn.
Approach
My work is systemic counseling: I’m interested in the dynamics between people — communication patterns, emotional undercurrents, the positions everyone has quietly taken — more than in judging anyone’s use of technology. The AI is often not the core issue. Counseling helps you find the real question underneath.
The format is written and asynchronous. You write when it suits you; I reply within 24 hours. There is no scheduling, no retelling your story to a stranger on a video call, and no subscription. Writing slows things down in a useful way — for you when you compose the message, and for me when I answer it. AI-assisted systemic techniques support the work; every reply is reviewed by me before delivery.
The goal is always the same: clarity, less shame, and better conversation — between partners, or within yourself.
What relateto.ai is
relateto.ai is my counseling practice, delivered entirely over email. One session is one considered exchange: you describe your situation, and I reply with a systemic reading of it and concrete directions for the conversations ahead. Sessions cost €99, paid per session, with no recurring charges.
This is systemic counseling (Lebens- und Sozialberatung), not psychotherapy, and it does not address diagnosis or mental illness. If you’d like to read more about how I think about this work, I write about it in the journal.